Finding Your Tribe: Building a Village of Support and Connection

There’s a saying that’s stuck with me over the years: It takes a village to raise a child. But I’ve come to realize it’s not just about raising kids—it takes a village to thrive in life.

As moms, it’s easy to feel like we’re carrying the world on our shoulders. Between parenting, work, and trying to maintain some semblance of a personal life, we often put our heads down and push through, thinking we have to do it all on our own. But here’s the truth: we weren’t meant to do life alone.

Having a community—a “village”—isn’t just helpful; it’s essential. It’s the support system that picks you up when you’re struggling, celebrates with you when you’re thriving, and reminds you that you’re not alone in the messy, beautiful chaos of motherhood and life.

If you’re longing for connection but aren’t sure where to start, let’s talk about why community matters and how to build your own village.

Why Community Matters

1. It Provides Support

Whether it’s emotional support after a tough day or practical help like carpooling or swapping babysitting, having people to lean on makes life so much more manageable.

2. It Reduces Isolation

Motherhood, especially in the early years, can feel isolating. Being part of a community reminds you that your struggles are shared and that you’re never truly alone.

3. It Brings Joy

There’s something powerful about laughing with friends who just get it. Community brings moments of joy, connection, and belonging that enrich your life.

4. It Models Connection for Your Kids

When your children see you building and nurturing relationships, they learn the value of connection and the importance of showing up for others.

How to Build Your Village

Building a community takes time, but it’s worth the effort. Here are some practical ways to get started:

1. Start Where You Are

Sometimes, your village is closer than you think. Look for opportunities to connect with the people you see regularly—other moms at school pickup, coworkers, or even neighbors. A simple smile or “How’s your day going?” can open the door to deeper connection.

2. Join Groups Aligned with Your Interests

One of the best ways to find your people is by doing what you love. Whether it’s a mom group, a book club, a fitness class, or a volunteer organization, shared interests create natural connections.

Tip: Check out local Facebook groups, Meetup, or community centers for events in your area.

3. Show Up Consistently

Consistency is key to building meaningful relationships. It’s hard to feel connected if you only pop in once in a while. Make it a priority to show up regularly, whether it’s at your child’s playgroup or your weekly yoga class.

4. Be Vulnerable

Real connection happens when we let our walls down. Share your struggles, your joys, and your authentic self. You’ll be surprised how many people respond with, “Me too!”

5. Create the Community You Wish Existed

If you can’t find a group that fits your needs, create one! Host a coffee morning, organize a mom’s night out, or start a walking group. Chances are, there are other moms near you longing for connection too.

6. Embrace Different Types of Friendships

Your village doesn’t have to look one way. Some friends might be your go-to for advice, while others are the ones who make you laugh until you cry. Embrace the diversity of relationships and the unique value each person brings.

Staying Connected in a Busy World

Life gets busy, and it’s easy to let relationships fall by the wayside. Here are a few ways to nurture your community, even when time feels limited:

• Send a quick text: A simple “Thinking of you!” can go a long way.

• Plan intentional meetups: Even if it’s just a 20-minute coffee date, make the effort to spend time together.

• Celebrate milestones: Remember birthdays, anniversaries, and other important dates.

• Be there in the hard moments: Show up with a meal, a listening ear, or a hug when someone in your village is struggling.

A Village is Built, Not Found

If you’re feeling lonely or disconnected, know this: building a community takes time, and it’s okay to start small. One genuine connection can grow into something beautiful over time.

Your village won’t look like anyone else’s, and that’s the beauty of it. It’s made up of the people who love you, challenge you, and stand beside you no matter what.

So take that first step. Reach out, show up, and trust that your village is waiting to grow around you.

With love and a whole lot of grace,

Julie

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